I’d like to start by saying I feel old. Like really old.
I can’t even imagine what my grandparents must feel like. I kinda feel like I’ve already done this whole life thing for a bit too long already and I haven’t even been on this earth for two decades let alone SEVEN. It’s been a wild ride.
Honestly, I really do feel like a grandma. I’m always cold and somedays I think I might be dying. Continuing on with this grandmother energy, I want to share a few things I’ve learned from circling the sun the last few years, since with age comes wisdom, or at least that’s how it’s supposed to go. I’m not saying I know everything because that’s just not possible at this stage in the game, but man oh man I’ve learned a lot . . .
ONE – People can be the absolute worst, but I’m a firm believer that for every horrible person out there, there’s at last five more beautiful and amazing people out there to help add more light and love to the world. Be one of those people.
TWO – You’re not being dramatic if you feel trapped by your past. You’re just being human. It takes time to learn how to live with pain, don’t lose faith you’ll get there.
THREE – Some of the greatest things are waiting for you right outside your comfort zone, but you’ll never know unless you take the chances. Take the chances. Sometimes high risk means high reward, but you’ll never know unless you make the jump 😉
FOUR – Make time to read good books. It’s a constant regret that I don’t make more time to read. I’m really busy, but when I’m not I spend all my time on my phone and I wish I read more, so it’s about time to do something about it.
FIVE – Read the news. It can be scary, it can be depressing, some days it can really make you fear going outside, but it’s important to not ignore the realities of the world we live in. Ignorance is bliss, but not to those who don’t have the privilege to ignore the truth. Educate yourself and quit saying things aren’t issues simply because they don’t affect you.
SIX – To my writers, never stop writing. Especially to my female writers, don’t stop sharing your stories and speaking your truth. There’s unfortunately not enough of us getting published and there’s definitely not enough people paying attention, but we can’t be ignored if we take on the world by storm. Please empower one another and write, write, write.
SEVEN – Pursue your passions and don’t ever give up, no matter how hard it gets. If you truly love it, it really will all work out somehow. It’s like, a rule of the universe or something.
EIGHT – You don’t always have to agree with others, but you do always have to show them respect. Everyone has a right to their own opinion including yourself so please just treat everyone with respect otherwise there is no way for us to coexist.
NINE – Be a good person. It may not seem that simple, but if you’re kind (EVEN WHEN people don’t technically deserve it), you show people respect regardless of the situation, and spread love any way you can, you’re doing it right. So in reality, it really is that simple.
Live in such a way that if someone were to speak poorly of you, no one would believe it.
TEN – It’s okay to ask for help. You can be vulnerable and tell someone you’re struggling , ask for a hug, emotional support, or even just to help you work on something you’re passionate about. There are people out there who care about you and will always have your back. You’re not a burden to people who willingly make time for you. Reach out.
ELEVEN – Not sure if you want to use your voice to make a change? It can be scary, but I try to remember this:
“May today be the day you courageously pursue every opportunity to make a difference for something so much greater than you” – MHN
TWELVE – “Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even if you do not see it yourself.” Quote Credit.
THIRTEEN – People really can change, however, it is completely up to them, and them alone, if it is for better or worse.
FOURTEEN – People may walk right out of your life and sometimes you have to just let it happen. You can always leave the door unlocked, but it needs to be up to them if they want to open it.
FIFTEEN – Don’t ever lose faith that you are worthy of love. It’s human to feel worthless sometimes, but please don’t ever believe you deserve to feel that way because no one does.
SIXTEEN – The things you say can come back to haunt you, so be the bigger person and don’t spread the negative energy. You never know what a person is going through, so spread more love and light. Quit investing energy into killing other people’s vibes. Life is too damn short.
SEVENTEEN – Positivity is so valuable. Make people laugh and smile, don’t take yourself too seriously. Make people happy and I promise you will be happy too.
EIGHTEEN – Having a nonverbal sister has taught me to advocate for others, but one thing I’m still working on is advocating for myself. Stand up for people you love, but don’t forget to include yourself.
NINETEEN – My best tip for living a good life? Learn to let that shit go. You don’t need to carry the weight of any past trauma with you everywhere you go. Better yet, you don’t deserve to carry that weight. Only you can choose to free yourself from it. Believe me it’s not any easy task, but you deserve to be the happiest version of yourself. Treat yo self and free yo self. That’s the best kind of self care out there ❤️
18 was unbelievably tough and quite possibly one of the worst years I’ve ever lived through. I stopped reaching out to people I care about (I still struggle with that but please know you mean the world to me), I made it impossible on myself to open up to people, and I spent most of it stuck in my own head. If I’m honest I deserve a second to let that sink in and to appreciate the fact that I survived it all. 18 was awful but I MADE IT! Hell yeah, once again she persisted and she doesn’t plan on stopping. I’m ready for a year of new adventures, new relationships, and new inspiration. I have faith that 19 is the new beginning I’ve been needing. Let’s get started.