White People: Here’s what you need to know about Black Lives Matter

White People: Here’s what you need to know about Black Lives Matter

I want to preface this by saying my intention in putting together this post is to be a resource for white people who want to learn, help, and educate themselves on how to be a better ally to the black community but do not have any idea where to start. It is not my intention to take away any platform from people of color about this movement. My goal with this post is to be a launchpad for new allies. I want to redirect people who want to get involved and be allies to the black creators, writers, influencers, and leaders of this movement. This is not my story to tell. I will never know their pain, but I want to do what I can to encourage people to get involved and start listening. There is a lot to read here and a lot to unpack, but I promise you, it is all incredibly important so buckle up and take a seat. Let’s talk about racism in America.

What is happening?

The Black Lives Matter (BLM) movement has had a resurgence due to the recent killings of young, unarmed, black civilians including: Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and the most recent, George Floyd. Please read up on Ahmaud and Breonna’s murders. I linked articles about their murders because you need to know their stories to fully understand and sympathize with the grief felt by the black community. In this post, I am specifically talking about the murder of George Floyd and how his death sparked protests around the country that are still happening over a week later, and why you should get involved in the BLM movement.

The growing agony and disbelief felt by the black community and their allies rose to a boiling point after the video surfaced of George Floyd being detained by a police officer after being accused of paying with a counterfeit bill on May 25, 2020. George Floyd was unarmed. George Floyd did not resist arrest. George Floyd did not pay with a counterfeit bill. None of those things mattered. Officer Derek Chauvin pinned him to the ground regardless with his knee on George Floyd’s neck. This tactic was not ethical and not part of the Minneapolis police department’s official training. Derek Chauvin kept his knee on George Floyd’s neck for nearly 9 minutes. Even as Floyd begged him to lay up, even as he told Chauvin he was unable to breathe, and even after he became unconscious. Derek Chauvin’s knee remained on George Floyd’s neck for almost 3 minutes after he was believed to be dead while 3 other officers stood by and watched. George Floyd’s limp body was then haphazardly placed onto a stretcher and whisked away from the scene.

George Floyd died at the hands of a police officer who used an inhumane and uncertified method to restrain him, after arresting him for a crime he had not been proven guilty of. In fact, he was innocent, however it would seem “innocent until proven guilty” is only applicable when the one being accused is not a person of color.

Three videos piece together the final moments of George Floyd’s life

Almost the entirety of the situation was caught on camera. Floyd’s arrest, the almost 7 minutes of Floyd begging for his life, Floyd’s body going limp, bystanders asking if Floyd is dead, and when Floyd’s body was carelessly moved to a stretcher. All of that recorded on film. All the evidence in the world to convict Derek Chauvin of first degree murder and the other 3 officers as accomplices to murder, but justice was never served.

Chauvin and the other three officers were fired by the Minneapolis police department, but none of them were charged with anything. They were unemployed, but they were still walking as free men after murdering an innocent man and the whole world knew it.

This is when the protests began.

They were planned to be peaceful. Those who were there in support and solidarity were peaceful. However, there were people who were angry. You must consider how a peaceful protest can turn violent. There is a long history of instigators showing up to events like this to turn them violent in order to get away with illegal activities. Another thing to consider is the Theory of Broken Windows. The idea is that if there are clear signs of disorder, more disorder will occur. NPR has an excellent article about the history of this theory in regard to policing, I have linked it below.

How A Theory Of Crime And Policing Was Born, And Went Terribly Wrong

Throughout history, especially in regard to protests regarding equality of any variety, the police have used this theory to their advantage by breaking windows in order to create large massive riots that make the protestors look horrific and monstrous in order to discredit their cause. This is what was believed to have happened in Minneapolis, but it was also caught on film. This only fueled the fires of a war beginning between Minneapolis and their police, and ultimately the United States and their police.

Why are people protesting?

Although Derek Chauvin was finally arrested on May 29, 2020, four days after Floyd’s murder, he was only charged with third degree murder and second degree manslaughter. They want Chauvin to be charged with first degree murder and for the other three officers present to be charged as accomplices to murder. Chauvin’s third degree murder charge allows him to be freed on bail. This is not justice.

No justice, no peace.

This case is eerily similar to Ahmaud Arbery’s murder. His murderers were not charged until 2 months after the murder took place. It was not until protests, petitions, and social media campaigns began and local police and government’s inaction had been revealed that they were finally charged with murder. Ahmaud’s family did not get to celebrate his 25th birthday with him alive, but they did get to celebrate justice for his murder, even though it was long overdue. The protests happening nationwide after George Floyd’s murder will not stop until all the officers involved are given proper sentences and the Minneapolis police department is investigated.

Video by @kareemrahma on Tik Tok.

Why does is matter what degree of murder?

As I previously stated, Chauvin is able to get out on bail with his current sentencing. Murder is too serious of a crime to pay your way out of.

Third Degree Murder according to Minnesota state law (Statute 609.195) “Whoever, without intent to effect the death of any person, causes the death of another by perpetrating an act eminently dangerous to others and evincing a depraved mind, without regard for human life, is guilty of murder in the third degree and may be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than 25 years.” The funny thing about third degree murder is only three states in the U.S. have this degree of murder. It is considered to be a lesser degree of murder.

Second Degree Murder includes both intentional and unintentional murder. According to Minnesota state law (Statute 609.19) “causes the death of a human being with intent to effect the death of that person or another, but without premeditation” and “causes the death of a human being, without intent to effect the death of any person, while committing or attempting to commit a felony offense other than criminal sexual conduct in the first or second degree with force or violence or a drive-by shooting.” Second degree murder has a lot of different clauses and I recommend you look at the statute for yourself.

First Degree Murder is defined by Minnesota state law (Statute 609.185) it “causes the death of a human being with premeditation and with intent to effect the death of the person or of another.” They actually have a list of seven different things that could make someone applicable for a first degree murder charge and that was only the first one. It might be worth your time to take a look at the list.

It has been revealed that Chauvin has been written up 18 times for his discriminatory behavior as a police officer, however all the reports have been closed and dismissed. We do not want the murder of George Floyd to be dismissed. Chauvin held his knee on George Floyd’s neck for almost 9 minutes and ignored his pleas for help. It seems that Chauvin was pretty intent on making sure Floyd was no longer able to breathe and the other officers on the scene let it happen. This is why the charge must change and why the other officers must be charged as accomplices. Here is an article by CNN rounding up everything you need to know about Derek Chauvin.

Derek Chauvin: What we know about the former officer charged in George Floyd’s death

UPDATE

As of June 3, Derek Chauvin has been charged with second degree murder and the other 3 officers involved have been charged with aiding and abetting murder. Originally protestors were demanding he be charged with first degree murder, but here is why second degree murder is a good charge and one that needs stay.

When this case goes to trial, prosecutors need to give sufficient evidence that he committed the crimes he has been charged for. While the video alone is enough evidence for most people, that does not mean it is enough evidence in a court of law. While Chauvin could potentially be charged with first degree murder if there was indeed evidence that he knew Floyd prior to his arrest (which there has been speculation that he and Floyd were coworkers for a year as they both worked as security for a local bar), there is not enough evidence to prove that this is true and that this murder was pre-meditated, even though it was clearly intentional. If the prosecution does not have enough evidence for the first degree charges, then we could lose the trial and Chauvin could face an even shorter sentence. Simply being charged for these crimes is not enough, he has the right to a trial and his attorney will be fighting hard. Although the evidence seems condemning, please do not forget who this system was built to protect and who it was not designed to protect. We do not want Chauvin to get off on only a manslaughter charge.

Video by @fairynadia on Tik Tok

How can I help?

Story chains, quoting MLK, and posting black squares on Instagram don’t help. You need to listen to what the black community actually needs from you. They appreciate the support, but they need you to do more than just post about it on social media. These are a few ways to be an ally to the black community. Sign petitions and then share them on social media to encourage others to sign them. Make donations and then share the links to encourage others to make donations. Support black-owned businesses. Follow black creators. Stop posting your regular content in solidarity and give black creators the platform they should’ve had all along. Join the #AmplifyMelanatedVoices challenge. Start having conversations about it with people who think BLM is a political issue. Educate yourself and educate others. Learn about other police brutality cases and help them get justice too. Advocacy never disrupts the feed.

Petitions to Sign

#JusticeforFloyd Demand the officers who killed George Floyd are charged with murder.

Justice for Big Floyd

Demand Justice for George Floyd

Raise the Degree

Here is a list of other petitions.

Places to Donate

George Floyd Memorial Fund

Black Lives Matter

The Bail Project

NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund

Minnesota Freedom Fund *They have received massive amounts of donations lately and they are grateful for the support, but they will redirect you to other sites that need your donations as well.

People to Contact

Articles to read for further understanding

Why You Need to Stop Saying “All Lives Matter” by Rachel Elizabeth Cargle

Black Bodies and White Souls by Matt Bockenfeld

Campaign Zero

Explained: Why George Floyd’s death has sparked violent protests in the US

How to Make this Moment the Turning Point for Real Change by Barack Obama

75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice by Corinne Shutack

Video by @mistercapeheart on Tik Tok.

Books to read

When They Call You a Terrorist by Patrisse Khan-Cullors & Asha Bandele

Black Feminist Thought by Patricia Hill Collins

Heavy: An American Memoir by Kiese Laymon

How to Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

The Help by Kathryn Stockett

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

The Blood of Emmett Till by Timothy B. Tyson

Hashtags to follow

#BLM #BLACKLIVESMATTER #BLACK_LIVES_MATTER #SAYTHEIRNAMES #GeorgeFloyd #NOJUSTICENOPEACE #JusticeforFloyd #IMBLACK

Accounts to follow

These accounts may be black creators, white allies, and BLM organizers who have information about the movement, new petitions, places to donate, videos from protests, updates about charges, politics, news, or have insight you should see as to what it is like to be a member of the black community. Please please PLEASE follow black creators. They don’t have to be talking about activism. I promise you there are hundreds of creators out there who make content about the same things you are passionate about and you may not even know they exist because the algorithm and your discover page or your “For You” page are often more likely to show you white creators. You will never truly understand how we are similar and how we are different until you diversify the content you see on social media.

Instagram

  • @blklivesmatter
  • @ckyourprivilege
  • @rachelcargle
  • @NAACP
  • @osopepapatrisse
  • @laylafsaad
  • @scottwoodsrules
  • @shityoushouldcareabout

Tik Tok

  • @fairynadia
  • @gigiray_
  • @mistercapeheart
  • @ashleighhvideos
  • @yeahitstyg
  • @lizzo
  • @taylorcassidyj

Twitter

  • @blklivesmatter
  • @AOC
  • @halsey
  • @johnlegend
  • @janellemonae
  • @tessathompson_x
  • @missyelliot
  • @kekepalmer

IF YOU CHOOSE TO ATTEND PROTESTS

Although these protests are intended to be peaceful, once the police show up, they have a way of quickly turning violent. Be careful, be cautious, and do not lose sight of why you are there in attendance in the first place. You are allowed to be angry, a whole community is hurting. Use your anger to raise your voice. Please do not turn to violence. Please do not take your anger out on local businesses within your community. Agitators may show up to these protests who do not care about your mission, but do what you can to let it be known that they are not with you and that it is not the protestors contributing to the violence. Many people like to use the excuse that violence undermines the message. I beg you, PLEASE pay attention to who is being violent. Peaceful protestors do not show up with the intention of violence. Please seek the truth. Also please pay attention to the behaviors of police officers at the protests. It is critical you watch the videos of them interacting with protestors in order to understand police brutality. Last, but certainly not least, please be careful out there. We want you to continue to use your voice to stand with us and to do so we need you here. Be safe.

Resources for Protestors

For Protestors – By BLM

Safety During Protest – Amnesty International

How to Protect Protestors in Your Photos and Videos by Lewis Gordon

Video by @skincarebyhyram on Tik Tok.

TALK ABOUT THIS. DO NOT STOP TALKING ABOUT THIS.

Talk to your parents, your grandparents, your friends, and anyone who says “All lives matter.” There is no debate that all lives matter. All lives do matter. However, throughout our history many lives have been questioned as to whether or not they matter as much. Have you ever heard someone call into question whether or not white people matter? Do you remember those photos in your history textbook, the ones about the civil rights movement, and segregation? Do you remember the one that shows two water fountains, one clearly labeled as “White Only” and the other one as “Colored,” does that ring a bell? After hundreds of years of black people fighting to be recognized as more than just property, they were then told they couldn’t drink from the same water fountains or sit at the same lunch counters as white people. Do you remember that picture of America?

People of color have been oppressed since the beginning of this country. That is a truth you can’t deny. History books alone are sufficient evidence of our faults and I can almost guarantee they do not hold even half of the story of all the ways we have wronged and continue to wrong people of color in our country. All lives matter, but no one has ever questioned whether or not white lives matter. There is no doubt that white lives matter. Our society was built for white people. There was a time in our country’s history where many white people owned black people because they believed they were the equivalent of property. When white people were not allowed to own them anymore, they made it impossible for them to live as normal people. They were worked ungodly hours, were paid lower than minimum wage, were not allowed to own their own properties, were not allowed to vote, were not allowed to drink from the same water fountains as white people, use the same restrooms as white people, or even sit in the same seats on the bus as white people, and for a long time they were not even considered citizens. When segregation became illegal and people of color were finally granted more rights by our constitution, white people had to be smarter about how they could hold people of color back, how they could ensure an imbalance of power. Welcome to stereotyping, workplace discrimination, voter discrimination, racial profiling, redlining, gentrification, the criminalization of blackness, police brutality, and censorship of black influencers.

White people have struggles. We’re human beings, we all have issues and that is completely valid. The thing you need to remember here is that there has never been a shadow of a doubt that white people matter. White people make the rules. White people have never been told they don’t matter. White people have never been told that they are less than a human. They were never counted as 3/5 of a person for their state’s population. They have never been told that they “looked shady” simply for jogging in their neighborhood. They have never been labeled as problems before they turn 13. They have always, and always will be, counted as human beings and they will never have to fight, protest, riot, call senators, sign petitions, and/or raise funds to prove to the rest of the world that they matter. This is why we say “Black Lives Matter.” We will continue to say it, until everyone believes it. Until no one sees the need to say “All lives matter,” because it will actually be true. If all lives mattered George Floyd’s murderers would currently be serving their sentences.

If someone says to you, “All lives matter,” ask them, “Well then what about George Floyd’s?”

Say. Their. Names.

*I will continue to update this article with more resources and links as the fight continues. Feel free to comment other important resources down below.

Video by @jeremycohen on Tik Tok

One year later.

One year later.

It’s almost been a year now since my coworker was fired after I reported his harassment and I’m still dealing with the fear and trauma surrounding what happened to me. I didn’t expect it to be in the back of mind still after all this time, but I guess one year really isn’t that much time. If I’m honest, I haven’t thought about this at all until recently. Since my birthday was last week, I feel that is partially contributing to the anxiety I’m feeling about this and why it’s all resurfacing now. This time last year is when everything began to unfold. Everything became so much worse when I turned 18, when I became a legal target.

If you want to know the full story of what happened to me, I shared it on the blog a few months ago and you can find it here, but the things I’m dealing with now are predominantly the emotional aftermath of moving past it.

When I wrote about what happened to me, there were headlines everywhere regarding harassment and assault and there still are. The points I made are still as relevant now as they were when I first wrote about it. Harassment still isn’t being taken seriously and I know that because there are people in my life who blame me for what happened to me and I know I can’t be the only victim being given the blame.

One of my coworkers was good friends with the man who harassed me and believes that I “got him fired.” Even a year later he still resents me for it. We can be civil and professional when we work together, but I know he tries very hard to get under my skin with biting comments to make me feel inferior. It angers me to admit that his tactics work. I’m the kind of person that wants everyone to like me, and even though I knew he felt this way, I never treated him any differently or respected him any less. I knew deep down there was some resentment he had towards me about the whole situation, but we were still pleasant so I didn’t focus on it. It wasn’t until about a month ago one of my coworkers told me he has been talking shit about me to other coworkers for a while now and has made it abundantly clear to them that he does not like me.

This has bothered me more than I thought it would. I knew why he resented me and I tried to be understanding, but it just occurred to me how horribly wrong he is and how messed up his way of thinking about this really is. He doesn’t respect me because he has it in his mind that I was “asking for it” and believes that his friend did nothing wrong, but neither of those statements are even slightly true. I told him “no” several times actually, but history goes to show that when a woman says “no” men still have the tendency to do whatever the fuck they want and that’s a history I’m sick of repeating itself.

I told him “no” several times actually, but history goes to show that when a woman says “no” men still have the tendency to do whatever the fuck they want and that’s a history I’m sick of repeating itself.

If you have a friend, or even know someone that has sexually harassed someone, you can’t stand by them and say nothing of what they’ve done. There is no such thing as “choosing sides” when it comes to sexual harassment. There is only right and wrong.

No means NO. There is no bro code for supporting a friend who harassed someone who did not want it, and I can guarantee you no one wants that. If anything, it’s your responsibility as their bro to let them know what they did was not okay. And under absolutely no circumstances should you EVER blame the victim if your friend ever faces the consequences of their actions. Help them understand what they did wrong, help them learn why it’s an issue, and help them do better. Otherwise you’re only contributing to the problem and are adding just a few more repetitive pages to this never ending history of harassment. Only you can change the narrative.

Let me reiterate: NO ONE wants to be harassed. I feel the need to make that abundantly clear since still many people seem to not understand. Flirting and harassing are two very different things. There is a fine line between these two things, but allow me to enlighten you on the main differences. When someone is flirting, it’s supposed to be a mutual feeling. If you continue to hit on someone and they’re not into it, walk away because you can easily cross the line into harassment. You have to go into flirting with someone by showing them respect. Respect their space, their time, and their right to say “no,” otherwise you’re coming from a place where harassment can be the only result.

Also, I would have thought this would be crystal clear by now, but CONSENT!! You have to have consent. It’s not optional, ever. It’s another seemingly simple concept like respect but yet there are still people out there who don’t seem to get it. Ask them to dance, ask them if you can buy their drink, ask them what they’re comfortable with because you never know. I was violated with a non-consensual hug and kiss, so those are very simple things that make me a bit nervous now, but you wouldn’t know that about me though unless you asked me what I’m comfortable with. If you ask, I know you respect me and then there’s no reason for me to feel the fear I associate with those things anymore when it comes to you. I do realize that it’s also my job to let you know how I’m feeling, I promise that I know girls are complicated enough as is, but it’s a small thing that goes an incredibly long way to make a relationship a million times better.

I know that I still live with the fear of what happened to me. Affection isn’t as easy for me to show, I’m a lot more cynical, I keep all my thoughts bottled up inside, and I am definitely a lot more apprehensive of men in general. I find myself struggling to tell people who are closest to me how much they mean to me, and most days I can’t even show it.

I used to be a touchy-feely person but this has made me more reserved which probably comes off as standoffish, but that’s not how I feel inside. I’m just now starting to work myself out of that. I still blame myself for not seeing how he would manipulate me and coax affection out of me. Its so obvious to me now and I know it wasn’t easy to see then, but I have a hard time reminding myself that. I think that is why it’s so hard for me to be affectionate with people. It may not make perfect sense but I feel like he stole the goodness, that feeling you’re supposed to feel when you’re touched by someone you love, from me when he crossed the line and I’m just now trying to take that feeling back.

At this exact moment I feel a kind of numbness I haven’t felt since the summer. I don’t want to feel numb anymore I want to feel again. I’m sick of being annoyed with the world, feeling uninspired, and blaming myself for things out of my control, so it’s time to get it all off my chest. This whole thing has been haunting me recently more now than ever for at least a hundred different reasons, but the one that really got the ball rolling was when I saw him for the first time in almost a year, and it was as I was leaving a date.

I felt the date went extremely well, and I was really happy afterward. We were sitting outside at a coffee shop and during the date one of my friends went through the drive thru and saw me sitting there and rolled down her window and said hi. This of course was no big deal and actually kind of funny, but when I was pulling out of the shop I saw the man who harassed me pulling into the drive thru and my heart just stopped.

First just due to the immediate reaction of seeing him for the first time in almost a year, but then my mind jumped to what could have happened if I’d still been sitting there on my date when he’d gone through the drive thru. Just thinking about how possessive he had been over me and the million things he could have said or done if he’d seen me there filled me with so much dread and anxiety. It’s definitely shifted more into anger now, only because this fear of him and what he did is still there and controls me more than I thought it did.

It’s something I’m still working through and growing through. Trust has never come easy for me just because it can be so easily broken. I’ve never had the best experiences when I open up to people, but I’ve never lost hope that I will meet people who won’t abuse my trust. I’ve definitely just made it a lot harder on myself to let them in. I’m not good at vocalizing these fears and being vulnerable because that implies trust.

I have a hard time getting out of my own head sometimes, so trusting people is more difficult than it needs to be. My brain has a tendency to overthink, even more so now than it did a year ago. I think that’s partially why I blame myself, for not realizing what was happening to me sooner. Trusting someone is an uphill battle, but one I don’t plan on giving up on any time soon. I believe there are good people out there, but it may take a while for them to find their way to you and into your heart. We live in a world where we can’t afford to give up on finding real, meaningful connections with people. I’ve built up a ginormous wall, but I think I’m finally ready for it to start coming down.

I believe there are good people out there, but it may take a while for them to find their way to you and into your heart.

Step one of this process has been the hardest for me and that is forgiving yourself. What happened to me was not my fault and I know that, but it takes a lot to convince myself of that sometimes. Everything I’ve felt is valid and I know that too, but most days I don’t believe it. But that’s why healing is a process, not something that happens overnight. For me, writing about it, putting my feelings into words, is how I’m able to get myself to a place where I can be vulnerable and grow. By putting my story out there I can only hope someone else benefits from my experience. Whether it maybe helps someone come to terms with their own struggles or allows someone else to create a better understanding of why these issues matter makes it worth it to publish. Everything is about perspective.

You know what harassment looks like and feels like, so what can you do? How can you advocate or be an ally to someone who has been harassed? Talk about it. Saying nothing helps no one. Letting it happen just makes things worse. Speak up and stand by the victims because they are not alone but I promise you it sure does feel like it sometimes.

If you or someone you know is being harassed, please speak up or encourage the person you know to say something. If you have witnessed harassment, report it. You have the power to stop it. If you have been harassed, you are worthy of respect and love. No one deserves the emotional turmoil of harassment. 2019 is almost over and people still don’t know that this isn’t okay. It’s affected my relationships, it’s affected my life, and it’s affected how I see myself. I wouldn’t wish the way this has made me feel on even my worst enemies. No one deserves to feel like this.

Speak up, share your story, advocate for yourself (Even though I know that’s not always easy, believe me), and don’t ever forget your own personal worth. You matter so freaking much. I know from experience for a fact you probably don’t believe that right now, but I promise you it’s true.

You matter so freaking much. I know from experience for a fact that you probably don’t believe that right now, but I promise you it’s true.

I honestly can’t say it any better than I did in my first post on this: It doesn’t matter if you think you’re overreacting, or that maybe you’re just reading too far into it. That’s how I felt, and once I put all the pieces together, I realized what was happening to me. It’s hard to admit, and it’s scary, but if you feel violated or uncomfortable, speak up. Your feelings are valid and you can’t ignore them. You deserve better. Please don’t be afraid to be heard.

Stay safe out there and don’t be afraid to get angry. Turn that spark into a light and use that fire to share your story. You deserve to be heard.